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You Can Fly
OK, you’ll need a plane—and a pilot will help but you can fly anywhere in the
world and find it just as tedious and boring as everyone else.
It’s never worth trying to rationalise your way out of your fears listening to
people with sentiments along the lines of, “the pilot wants to get down in one
piece too” or “it’s the safest mode of transport.” Such sentiments mean nothing
to someone who fears flying—they already know it’s irrational.
If you try to stay calm you’ll simply measure your uptightness. Thinking
positive will produce a state of mental “Wimbledon,” going backwards and
forwards between each positive thought and its opposite.
However, you can learn to simply “stay in the moment” and discover that the thing you
feared most was the fear.
Why do normal sane people panic about flying?
I’m not sure they do. If you need to be reading this then you’ll know you can
get pretty terrified sitting, drinking coffee in your kitchen waiting for the
transport to the airport to arrive – and stay fairly terrified as you visit the
loo for the fifth time. The fear becomes pretty much disconnected from the
actuality of sitting in a relatively comfy chair, albeit at 20,000 feet.
You become absorbed in how dreadful you feel and by so doing – fuel it.
When you try to stay calm, you simply tune in to how uptight you feel – it won’t
work. Alcohol can, for some, have a relaxing effect but for many people it makes
the situation worse when they check and find they feel just as bad as they did
three drinks ago.
So How Can Hypnotherapy Help?
Remember, you have no control over what you think—and what you think pretty
much determines what you feel.
However…….. You can change your response to those catastrophic thoughts and
feelings.
How? By learning to stay in the moment
If you continue to try to suppress and control your fears – you’ll fail.
All your fears are based in the future. Not necessarily about crashing,
though that has to be somewhere in the background driving the whole thing. It’s
more along the lines, “If it feels this bad now, how bad am I going to feel in
five, ten fifty minutes ……..?” It will probably take no more than two sessions
to equip you with the skills to remain chilled out and enjoy your holiday from
beginning to end.
It’s not rocket science.
It’s about staying in the moment
Remember, real stuff in real time is never difficult to cope with.
Real emergencies or dangers you cope with fine simply because they grab100% of
your attention.
In an airport lounge, you can be annoyed and uncomfortable but the only thing to
fear is being bored ridged. Don’t read this piece as if it’s saying, just tell
yourself you’re OK— clearly not, you're frightened, but the moment you’re in
will be OK - so that's the place to stay.
This applies whether you’re in your kitchen, the airport lounge, taking off or
cruising at 20,000 feet.
You can’t remain frightened whilst acknowledging that the moment you’re in is
OK.
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