Making Changes - Changing your Mind
Whether it’s stopping smoking, loosing weight, giving up gambling or
some other addiction, they
all involve making changes in your life.
Part of you wants to quit and
yet you continue to smoke or eat calories you don’t need.
Some people stay for years with a partner who is destructive to them either
emotionally or physically - sometimes both. One explanation is that
you’ve just no willpower. But that can’t be right because in other aspects of
your life and at other times you’ve had enormous willpower – so what’s going on?
The flip side of the coin to giving something up is having a desire to do something
- then never getting round to doing it; not to give
something up but to take something up.
People talk about motivation, the lack of it and/or loosing it – like it’s just
rolled out of reach under the settee.
My experience is that it’s often more interesting than that. Generally,
doing, whatever it is you've been putting off comes first and then motivation
turns up, rather than vice-versa.
There’s usually something about the new change not “fitting;”
there’s a clash between two conflicting desires.
The tricky bit is to help people come up with an elegant and effective way of
making the “fit” in a way that’s tailored to them.
Hypnotherapy can be an effective and efficient way of making that happen. The
new “fit” has to feel right and it has to feel positive and in no way a
sacrifice. If you get this bit right it can be just as easy to quit on fifty a
day as five a day. Equally, if you don’t get it right it can be a real struggle to quit on
five a day. Sometimes simple repetition can help and if it’s appropriate, you
may be given a CD to listen to when going to sleep.
Your imagination can both liberate and restrict you. By framing the outcome in a
totally positive light your chances of attaining the goal you desire are
enormously increased.
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