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McGinn's Good ReadThe “Good Read,” was produced originally as “hand-outs,” for a series of lunch time lectures that I ran some years ago. They are on a variety of topics, all related to how people’s lives get screwed-up; by how we are brought up as children; how we react in preordained and limiting ways to the pressures we face; how we allow ourselves to be manipulated by others and how we manipulate ourselves. The various pieces were a sort of “starter for ten,” in the group discussions. They are not, and were never meant to be, the given view on any particular topic. The purpose was, and since you are reading it now, still is, to provoke thought and discussion. Home PageBack to Home Page FeelingsThe first piece, "Feelings" suggests that the freedoms and restrictions on the way we express our emotions are as much the product of our parents needs and inadequacies as our own genetic makeup ... DepressionIn "Depression" I’m trying to convey my understanding of the nature of depression. My belief is that depression must be one of the most terrifying experiences going and that, in terms of emotional experiences, it is as if it were on another waveband than every other emotion. GuiltGuilt is an attempt to illustrate that rather than a natural emotion, one that everyone is born with the potential to feel, guilt is, man (or woman) made. Jig-SawJig-Saw is an attempt to illustrate how we lend ourselves to being manipulated and how it often seems easier to continue to tolerate the intolerable. AssertivenessThe first piece on "Assertiveness" is about how standing up for yourself is a choice we make. I used to think that that was all there was to solving your problems, but it becomes clear pretty quickly why people often stick to being unassertive. On Being GotOn Being Got is an attempt to illustrate how we learn to let others terrorise us into feeling responsible for their negative feelings Games"Games" is an illustration of just one aspect of a wonderful set of ideas called Transactional Analysis, (TA). If you wish to know more, simply go along to your local library and ask to see all the books they’ve got on this subject. CommunicationThe piece on "Communication" is an extension of the piece on assertiveness, in that it gives one practical example of the “how to,” of assertiveness. Ping-Pong"Ping Pong" Is written for Victim - Rescuers. Not surprisingly Persecutors will fail to see what it’s all about. When you become skilled in identifying “Top Shots,” and cease responding to the under the table stuff, the effects can be truly liberating. Doing ItNot as racy a section as you might be expecting but an explanation of the difficulties I sometimes face in getting people to look at their responses when locked into a "gamey" relationship. On Being Stuck"On Being Stuck" was written in response to someone I met who had suffered an enormous loss and had become, “stuck.” What I’m trying to convey is that you don’t ”get over it,” but rather adjust to living your life in the knowledge that this loss will always be a part of you. Warm FuzziesClaude Steiner, who I’m told was a collaborator with Eric Bern in the early days of TA, wrote "The Original Warm Fuzzy Tale." What I think it illustrates wonderfully is the way we are conditioned to give and receive attention, both positive and negative. Essentially, we are all born Princes and Princesses, and that it's what happens along the way that has us behaving as if we are frogs.
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